I think at some point of your life, there
were a moment/phase that you feel down and useless. It can be caused by many
reason that you can think of; relationships, career, loneliness or losing
something/someone important. It’s totally normal to feel angry, upset, helpless
or like a piece of sh*t. It’s healthy for you to let it out by sharing your
feelings with someone you can trust. Be sad, be furious, cried it out, scream
it loud. It is good for you to flushed them away. After you’ve done, take a
deep breath and start counting/listing your blessings. What you have at that
moment. All tiny little things you have; air to breath in, house for shelter,
peace, parents, love, clothes, parts of body to move freely etc. It is cliché
to say everything happened for a reason but it is. Live with the fact that you
can’t change that it’s already happened but you do can decide how to react
towards it. It’s easier said than done but it’s not impossible to do.
The most ‘I am a piece of crap’ phase was
when I decided I don’t want to teach anymore. At that moment I know I broke my
parents heart. They’ve been sacrificed a lot in terms of money, time and
attention for me to get my degree. I felt like an ungrateful child. At the same
time, I can’t force myself to be okay to do something that I don’t like. I felt
like I waste my time for almost 6 years studying for something I hate. Hate is
a strong word I know, I don’t hate teaching I hate the fact that I am no longer
capable to do few aspects in teaching like classroom control, passion to teach,
patience with kids. It’s all gone. I can’t find any motivation in me. It was
something I no longer can compromise. Despite how much I am not fond of
teaching, luckily I choose the subject I love which is English because I kinda
know in future I might not want to teach and I can choose other stuff related
to English for instead. Teaching English as Second Language is a fun course, I
enjoyed every bit of my study days. Maybe my mum is a TESL graduate too, so I
choose something that I was familiar with at that moment.
My personal tips to make you feel better
when you are in this phase is keep on giving. Not giving up but give help to
people in need. Make it as a habit to help around the house, help your
mom/dad/siblings/friends. Be a handy person. If you can’t contribute in sense
of money, contribute in form of man power. When I was in jobless phase, I was
lucky because I am not totally jobless. I am doing private tutoring for my one
and only student, Farhan who at that time soon will be sitting for PT3 (still
doing it even I am now have a job) Remember when I mentioned I don’t like to
teach anymore? with Farhan it is a different story. He is a perfect student.
The kind of boy who is hardworking and want to learn but the teachers at school
are too strict which makes him scared to ask anything. I can say he is a dream
student. I love doing private tutoring because it’s more like a sharing session
with payment. Farhan’s mom is very generous and kind. So I teach English
alternately with Math (I pass it to my brother to teach). Once in two weeks we will held a class. I
opened opportunity for my brother to gain new experience as a tutor while he
waiting for his Bachelor Degree admission, at the same time he earned his own
pocket money that time. I am so happy hearing about Farhan scores better in
Math with my brother’s help which means they both comfortable with each other
just like Farhan and me. Farhan had bad experience with his previous tutor
because she is so strict just like his school’s teacher which doesn’t helped
him much coz he too scared to ask any confusion.
Even
I don’t earn much, I do feel satiated with that small amount of money. With
that amount, it didn’t stop me to keep on giving. I can’t give a lot but I’ll
give what I have. Sedekah is a key of rezeki and I experienced it myself. I try
to make it as a habit every Friday at least. We are insatiable, our nature is
greed for more and never feel enough but sedekah/giving do helps in making us
feel enough. That habit cleansed your mind and heart to make you feel humble
and thankful with what you have. It makes me realise whatever I earn/ have at
this moment, can be taken away from me at any time. It’s only a loan. It’s
temporary. Please be clear that I don’t have any intention writing about this
to brag or convinced people how good I am. I just want people to have a faith
in life that life is a roller coaster. You won’t be at a bottom all the time
but when you are at the top of the sky, don’t forget you can be at rock bottom
at any unexpected time.
ps:while writting this, Hailee & DNCE - Rockbottom playing in my head
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