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Parents bless is everything
From career choice to choosing a lifetime partner. I’ve been
listening to my parents’ stories since I was a kid. In deciding what I want to
be and questioning jodoh stuff, I wanted to know how my parents decide to
become what they are today and how they choose each other to spend the rest of
their life with. The common stories that I can conclude from their stories is
parents blessing. The fact that their stories is kind a match-making tale which
Alhamdulillah until now and InsyaALLAH it will be till the end of time, may
somehow kinda give impact to me in deciding with whom I’m gonna end up with.
Mama wanted to be a flight attendant so she put 100% in knail-ing
English, however her height crushed her dreams so her second choice is to do
secretarial stuff. The fact that she may have to follow around her bos in
future who may be a guy makes her dad (arwah tok) gave her red light. He
encouraged her to become a teacher since he himself is a headmaster that time.
She spent a year in Australia under exchange programme (AFS Malaysia) which was
a fruitful investment in developing her language skills and character. That’s a
back story of my mum becoming an English Teacher till today. She loves it so
much until teachers need to do clerical computer work.
Babah has been an ace I would say but he don’t feel that way because
he believed that his brothers seems to be way better than him academically. From Business
Admin major to Juruanalisa Sistem Maklumat guy then a Lecturer. I grew up not
understand what actually my dad is doing but he work in uni. I never know what
exactly my dad wanted to be maybe he’s that kind of person who make
the most out of everything and see how the things go. He has he’s own vision
but he keep it to himself. What I know he believe in rezeki and parents duas.
Still remember he told me, “Babah balik US terus pegi India untuk cari agama
walaupon tak disetujui abang2, tp rezeki datang dari Allah, Babah balik Malaysia terus dapat
kerja.” Everytime he shares his story about his journey in dakwah he’ll be
extra enthusiast compare to what he already achieved for dunia.
- · Marriage over Wedding
I was told with prove of
pictures, MamaBabah not even wearing matching outfit for their wedding. Mama
borrowed her sister’s kebaya for engagement (maroon) and nikah (blue) and Babah
just wore his baju raya (white baju melayu) for nikah. Arwah Wan quite pissed
because there’s so many things that my mum refuse to have on her wedding and
she was firm with her decision. The outcome is debt-less wedding. They didn’t
live together for quite sometimes because Babah work in JB and Mama somewhere
in Pahang. They dont even have time and budget for honeymoon and believe Along
is pembawa rezeki in their marriage. Bit by bit they live a better life once
Mama got transferred to JB. Recently they just returned from their first ever
honeymoon after 29 years of marriage.
- · Saving
Mama told me that Babah
open Tabung Haji account immediately after Mama deliver us. I was told that
every cent of money that people gave us (since infant), went into the account.
They never use our money to buy our baby necessities. Babah even allocate 10% of
his salary for us and all of our duit raya will go to that account too. Back then,
I was angry because they done allow me to use my Raya money to get stuff I want
but now I feel thankful towards the action. Once we grow up, we were told that
we already have thousands in our account. Thanks for that discipline which
MamaBabah have been practicing, Along got to go to Japan when he was in high school,
me and Ajin able to visit him for 2 weeks and joined exchange programme to
Australia for me while Ajin Japan & Australia under the same program.
- · Islamic Education
All I can say is thank you
to my parents because they spend so much money for our education. Many people’s
impression towards us would be “tak nampak macam budak sekolah agama pon”. It
is me to blame for not appear muslimah - like. Our parents already put an effort
to raise us with proper Islamic upbringing but now it’s up to us to decide how we want to appear. Imagine if they didn’t send us to Islamic school, we may becoming
extra haywire than what we are today. Back then I kind a disagree and wonder
why we don’t just attend the same school as Mama rather than attending this
longer hours, far away from home school. I'm also happy with the fact that I know basic Arabic and Tajwid is not an alien for me. InsyaAllah can use the knowledge to teach my kids pulak.
Whatever I have wrote
definitely not to brag but it’s up to u to judge. Just something that you can discuss with your partner before you become a parents. May the post somehow benefit us in some ways.
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